The Real Cause of My Crashing Marriage(True Life Experience)

 If today is your first time visiting my blog, I am glad you found your way here and  I am humbled that you could read , real life experiences written in the most comprehensive format and also for you not to fall into same mistake, because when you learn from others mistake, there is every likelihood for you to make adjustment  concerning your relationship , in other not to be a victim of circumstance.

This real life piece was told to me by a very good friend ,who told me vividly to share it  on my platform , so that others would learn from her mistake.

Right now lets dive right in.

I married last five years to my darling husband and our love has been growing higher everyday,and as God would have it,we are blessed with  two lovely children,we had been living peacefully when a friend of mine,who had graduated from university,asked help from me,well to be frank! this my  girlfriend was my very closed ally ,that was before I got married,and after my marriage with my husband,we relocated to another State .

So,when Clara told me,she had found a job in my State,I was very happy for her,because she had been job hunting for so long and at last this job had come through for her.

On the following day,Clara had told me she doesn't have accommodation ,that I should  please find it in my heart to allow her stay for almost three months,in other for her to find her accommodation,so it was,I had reassured her,that I will talk with my husband,because my husband and I had agreed long before now,that friends can't stay in our home for that long period.

I had pressured my husband,to at least consider her,because she wasn't just anybody,but my good friend ,that was how my husband agreed for Clara to stay for that three month proposal.

It happened that,even before the three month could elapse,I had even help in search for good and affordable accommodation for Clara,but each time I told her to come see the new accommodation I have found for her,she kept on telling me,she doesn't like the house or rather the interior weren't  her taste,so I decided to go talk to my darling husband,so as to tell her to leave already,because the three months,we both agreed had ended and was almost six months gone.

All my husband could say,was that we should give her more time,in other to save for her accommodation,literally!!! I was surprised  because my husband had not bent on such rule before now,well I said to myself ,that in as much my husband had said we should give her more time,I agreed,because I never had any cause to suspect any  game they were both playing because,as far I could see,I have never for once seen them together  chatting  until one particular day .

One that  particular day I had gone to work and I had to leave work early because I promised my children I was going to get them some nice stuffs at the mall,  close to my direction,I entered the mall lo and behold,I saw my husband and Clara at the extreme of the mall eating and smiling at each other,surprisingly non of them saw me,I quickly picked the items and left hurriedly before they could catch a glimpse of me.

At home  later that day,I was waiting patiently for both my husband and Clara to walk in together,to my greatest astonishment,it was my darling husband that came alone,I pretended  as if everything was alright  and within me,I was confused,so late at night,Clara came in through the door,I was curious to know what might had made her come home so late.

When I asked Clara where she went to from work?she told me,she went to choir rehearsals,I just told her I have never seen you go for choir rehearsals since you came to my home,she said she started newly,i smiled,knowing she was actually lying to my face.

At that, I told my husband I wanted to buy somethings from a supermarket closer to my house,and I used the opportunity to ask my house help to go with me, for me, the reason was to ask my housekeeper,some few questions.

At first,my house keeper was comfortable,but  as I digged further in asking her more details of happening at home when I am not around,she became frozen with fear,because my husband had told her vehemently that she shouldn't tell me anything whatsoever,I later reassured her that open secret about Clara and my husband escapade is safe with me.

We got home and I pretended to use my husband's phone to send a text message ,oh ! my gosh! what I saw in the whatsapp chat between my husband and Clara shocked me to my very bone,that was what triggered my anger towards my husband and told him outrightly that Clara must leave my home this night.

Seeing my impromptu anger towards Clara,my husband decided to ask  the rhetoric question of what has come over me,I could not  answer him ,but showed him the whatsapp chat  If today is your first time visiting my blog, I am glad you found your way here and  I am humbled that you couldp read , real life experiences written in the most comprehensive format and also for you not to fall into same mistake, because when you learn from others mistake, there is every likelihood for you to make adjustment  concerning your relationship , in other not to be a victim of circumstance.

This real life piece was told to me by a very good friend ,who told me vividly to share it  on my platform , so that others would learn from her mistake.

Right now lets dive right in.

I married last five years to my darling husband and our love has been growing higher everyday,and as God would have it,we are blessed with  two lovely children,we had been living peacefully when a friend of mine,who had graduated from university,asked help from me,well to be frank! this my  girlfriend was my very closed ally ,that was before I got married,and after my marriage with my husband,we relocated to another State .

So,when Clara told me,she had found a job in my State,I was very happy for her,because she had been job hunting for so long and at last this job had come through for her.

On the following day,Clara had told me she doesn't have accommodation ,that I should  please find it in my heart to allow her stay for almost three months,in other for her to find her accommodation,so it was,I had reassured her,that I will talk with my husband,because my husband and I had agreed long before now,that friends can't stay in our home for that long period.

I had pressured my husband,to at least consider her,because she wasn't just anybody,but my good friend ,that was how my husband agreed for Clara to stay for that three month proposal.

It happened that,even before the three month could elapse,I had even help in search for good and affordable accommodation for Clara,but each time I told her to come see the new accommodation I have found for her,she kept on telling me,she doesn't like the house or rather the interior weren't  her taste,so I decided to go talk to my darling husband,so as to tell her to leave already,because the three months,we both agreed had ended and was almost six months gone.

All my husband could say,was that we should give her more time,in other to save for her accommodation,literally!!! I was surprised  because my husband had not bent on such rule before now,well I said to myself ,that in as much my husband had said we should give her more time,I agreed,because I never had any cause to suspect any  game they were both playing because,as far I could see,I have never for once seen them together  chatting not until one particular day .

One that  particular day I had gone to work and I had to leave work early because I promised my children I was going to get them some nice stuffs at the mall,  close to my direction,I entered the mall lo and behold,I saw my husband and Clara at the extreme of the mall eating and smiling at each other,surprisingly non of them saw me,I quickly picked the items and left hurriedly before they could catch a glimpse of me.

At home  later that day,I was waiting patiently for both my husband and Clara to walk in together,to my greatest astonishment,it was my darling husband that came alone,I pretended  as if everything was alright  and within me,I was confused,so late at night,Clara came in through the door,I was curious to know what might had made her come home so late.

When I asked Clara where she went to from work?she told me,she went to choir rehearsals,I just told her I have never seen you go for choir rehearsals since you came to my home,she said she started newly,i smiled,knowing she was actually lying to my face.

At that, I told my husband I wanted to buy somethings from a supermarket closer to my house,and I used the opportunity to ask my house help to go with me, for me, the reason was to ask my housekeeper,some few questionsl

 of them have been having and cheating under my roof with no remorse,my husband had seen the chat staring at him and he immediately began to plead for forgiveness putting the blame on Clara that she seduced him ,and he didn't know what came over him,he later pleaded that he will never do it again and for that Clara ,she locked her door and refused to open and I told her that the following morning was the last time I would set my eyes on her,truly to my word,before anybody could wake up,Clara had packed up her luggage to God knows where she went and I am planning to serve my husband a divorce papers, my husband had been so sober, believe you me, I wouldn't bulge for such soberness, because what if I didn't verify further, after seeing both of them together at the mall? 

Am I making the right decision of  divorcing  my cheating husband?